This is the second time in my life that someone has asked me to instruct people with a lot more experience, a lot more money and a lot more knowledge on how to be better than they are. I taught multi-million dollar CEO's how to run their business (something I knew personally, nothing about) and now I am facilitating veteran teachers who have been teaching for a minimum of 5 years more than I have, how to work together and make their teaching better.
So, one of my tasks is to read this book, Change Leader, and I am not a big highlighter, I don't care much about coming back to places in books, but one thing I do enjoy doing is reflecting and that is what this book wants us to do. There is no room for it, no pages that say "okay reflect now" but that the best leaders are the ones that look around and say "this is okay... but what if it could be this?" I have been talking to many of you about the math and what it is missing and what went wrong. I have spoken with many of you on how teaching could be better, how classrooms could be better, how education could improve and for once, I feel like those thoughts aren't for nothing. They aren't lost on deaf ears and if I could find my place in this and find a path to follow where being reflective helps others, I may have a job after I get burnt out on teaching (which working 95 hours may speed up drastically).
Consider the best boss you ever had. What made them great? For me, they were real people. They wanted to get to know you and cared about you. They expected greatness from you and did what they could to help you enjoy your job. They didn't blindly follow the big wigs or what the last email/research/meeting said and did what they knew was best for their team, for you. They believed in you and your abilities and they critiqued and made it better.
I have had some amazing bosses in my life but I have also had some horrid ones. I have had bosses that critique everything you say and take the you, out of the job. They take your soul out of your passion and they try to make you a new them. I don't want to be them. I like to be me and I like the aspects of myself that I have allowed these villains to replace and to taint. I have had bosses make me change what I know and what I do just to take one more stab at you. I have had bosses that could care less about you. You are a means to an end for them and if they can make you look good, well then they may move up the ranks. I have had bosses who never say a single nice thing about you and I have had bosses who don't jump in and help when you need it.
So what makes a good boss, good? What makes a bad boss, awful? Well looking at my critiques a few things stick out to me that matter to me. Bosses need to care more about the individual then they care about the system but more importantly, then they care about themselves. A good boss believes in their workers and let them know it. A good boss finds the highs and the lows and makes both improve. A good boss finds what makes you tick and increases it whether it is challenges, positive remarks, acceptance, etc. They want you to be better and find what works for you. They adapt, they concede and they listen.
So if I am meant to be a leader, at these meetings and always, I should do the same. I don't need to change myself to follow a theory, I don't need to shape people in the way I have been shaped but I need to see the struggles and the positives and support both and figure out what makes my people tick and bring them up.
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