Last week a friend of mine and I went to get frozen yogurt and ended up fixing the world.
Call me a sucker for what I read and maybe I just bought every word on the page, but I truly think I figured out how to fix (almost) every single, single friend I know, the business world AND the education world.
Crazy right?
Well that’s just the day we were having. I will save you the boring saga on the business and education world for now. Since, lets be honest, thats not the part you want to read.
Do you want to know why you, your friends and like everyone you know is single? Its easy really. They don’t know themselves. They don’t take the time and analyze themselves like the rest of the world does.
Now I am going to gear this towards gentlemen, because lets be honest. 90% of who i talk to are guys and I feel it will better point out my thoughts on this one.
So lets think about it. What do girls do? They think, they digest it, throw it up, eat it again. Then they rewind it and think about it for the billionth time again. They break out every single thought into a web of crazy design just to TRY to figure out what you think. But it works for them (or they normally assume). If not, they go back to the root of the problem and web out their thoughts again.
An example:
Why do guys play guitar?
Well there are normally 3 options.
1)They genuinely like music. Normally you can see a connection with the songs they listen to, the thoughts they have, the things they remember, maybe their father played, their hero was in a band. etc.
2) They just want something. They see this as their ticket in. Their friend taught them how to play a song or two and they just kept it going to keep themselves in the game. Girls will pick this up. They realize that you don't really know what you are doing, or you only know one song. They will see that you listen to rap, play rock and sing country. None of it will make sense except for your handsome eyelashes and the fact your muscles show off when you play.
3) They are romantic. They normally look like a fool and are trying to impress you. They want to show that they care and aren't great at finding the words. They learn your favorite song and its the only one they really know how to play. (Other than mary had a little lamb)
So if you have a guy figured out enough (or close enough) you can rightfully assume their reason through your intricate web of designs. And girls do this all the time.
The difference is that the guys don’t. “Why do you play guitar?” “Because." "Because I do.” “Because I want to”. None of that is who they are, it is just what they do. They are defined by their actions. Girls then define them by their reasons.
Girls don’t fall for the actions. Actions change. Actions can be spun into the wrong webs.
They care about the reason. Because the reason is a part of who you are. It is what you stand true to. It is your values, your beliefs and your morals and everything you do can be determined by it (assuming you attemped to listen to your own reasons either consciously or subconsciously)
So how can a guy get more girls that last? Figure out his own reasons. Self reflect on what makes himself tick exactly how he does. The more you know about yourself the more you can gear your actions to your reasons and help you get a girl and keep her.
