Do You Really Need That Cup?

"Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after."

Most days I feel like people are letting the wrong kind of coffee seep through them. I don't know if you people watch, but since I lived in the city the last couple of years, I've learned how to entertain myself in a place where I am always surrounded. My favorite was to gaze out the fingerprint-y window as I listened to the conversations around me. There were always conversations. Albeit, some were one sided phone conversations, as a by-passer I heard it all. 


"Oh My God! Did you hear what I heard Deanna say last night?"
"I know! How dumb!"


"So I just wanted to call you and let you know that I had the worst day at work today..."


"I just don't understand why Thomas has the nerve to treat me like that. I am a good person."


The more I listened, the more I realized, most people are far too focused on themselves. They need to tell one another their thoughts, their feelings, their problems and occasionally their joys. But how many of them take the time to listen? Better yet how many dig deeper?
As a society we never ask the question "Why?" Sometimes we get asked "Why do you feel that way?" but that is more-so for clarification than for actual analytical understanding. People all around us seem to live without understanding and it amazes me. How can someone not view their routines in a way that begs the question of "Why?" How can people not take the time to realize when they are stuck there is more than a need for discussing feelings and thoughts. 


You need to discuss motives too. Motives. Something inside us all makes us tick and if you can reach that thought process then you will not only grow as an individual but become increasingly aware of how those around you mold as well and WHY. 
If you have the fortunate ability to communicate with someone in a way that pleads for the question of why, your mind will feel jolted and you will realize you have the ability to learn and an increasing ability to grow. 


Whoever said coffee stunts growth never diverged in a deep conversation in the early hours of the rooster's beckoning.